Objectification of Women By So Called Progressive Men

If you belong to species that we are going to talk about here, I suggest you to wash your hands off this article and forget it. We will be talking about men who pretend to be supporting women empowerment or feminism but their thinking is not different from any other traditional men, just wearing this mask to get things their way.

 First there was objectification of women through dowry, but objectification today is prevalent through casual relationship propagated by so called progressive men giving millions of excuse of showing their back to a relationship built on trust instead choosing deception and justifying with funny explanations. From Ghosting to situation ships to friends with benefits. I don't have any problem with these new kind of relationships to flourish but what disgusts me is women are still considered the object of desire rather than desiring beings, if any desiring women caught men's attention then their character's are judged, but if you think these rules apply to these so called  spineless pookies, you are mistaken ! 

A women can try to be anything a kind and generous human, a smart, ambitious professional, creative and thoughtful artist, a learner, a thinker, a friend but all are fooling themselves because in any  walk of life they will encounter men, that wont see them beyond beauty and their body for example somewhere men will try to restrict women because they think their societal respect base on women's conduct in their sexuality and keeping it safe, a male friend will only want to be their friend in hope of getting closer in future without appreciating how much better friend, listener and supporter a female can be as friend, even in business people prefer hire good personality females(based on looks mostly) in reception or customer facing role giving an idea that women are just a pleasant face to attract or decorative item without considering the skills or ideas she could bring, now no matter how much loving, supportive and caring partner you are, men cant see you beyond their sexual pleasure.

In my college days a professor once told me that keep your personality that much valuable that no matter how much expensive clothes you wear your manners and personality should outshine or hold more value than clothes you wear. But as a woman when I grew up I realized it cant be applicable to our gender, considering no matter how innovative, intelligent and creative we are, no man would be able to see us beyond our bodies in office, house, outside, friends, partner. As if we bring nothing to the table other than our bodies.

 First kind of species will show being harmed by female in xyz situation and tell you a sob story why they can't be in a committed relationship and still want to get comforted by a female but without being tied to a single female, because he needs multiple women to bandage the hurt caused by one women.

This species has two levels, on first level they wont tell you that they don't want to commit they will move conversation in circles and manipulate you to the point till you start trusting blindly and at end create excuse themselves to justify the willfully done hurtful behavior.

One Second level, they will accept that they don't want to commit to you but only interested in engaging with you sexually and not just describe but gloat in a manner that you start questioning your own belief about relationship just to stay closer to that person. They want a body to comfort them from worldly defeats but not a partner who support them. The reason they give could be career, past relationship, trauma and many other.

But the real question is ,Even if we consider that the sob story is true, what I used to think that someone that is hurt in past don't want others to get hurt in same way or depth but from what I see in today's world someone who got hurt by 1 person is going to be hurting 3, 4 or more person coming there way (especially men).

The second kind of this species will be charading on the plane of true love. They will boast about their romantic behavior and their search for their soulmates creating the circumstances which will make you feel that this is very real thing without saying single word. This kind of species will look more charming and authentic than others Afterall they are talking about trust, commitment and love. But in actual they are looking for someone to lean one emotionally and sexually meanwhile they find their permanent partner. Finding solace in support and body they were receiving but actually keeping their eyes set somewhere else reducing you to mere a piece of meat. Just covering their intentions under sweet gestures and sweet talk until they get their goal.

Third kind of species or should I call lizards are one who when approach you and will show you that they want to be just  friend but under this charade they will always have their eyes on you. They will have more than female friends than a normal guys or should I say they will be surrounded by huge number of female friends keeping an eye on each so that when opportunity pops they hop up to that.

These kind of persons don't have genuine feelings for even a single person just sticking around just to have multiple options open for them. Once you show them that they don't have any chance you will know that they had nothing to do with you or your friendship but just toying around to get their way.

When you confront or make your intentions clear to these category of men, suddenly their behavior is more dry than a dessert, leaving you in shocked and helpless. No amount of plea of kindness can melt their heart, oops I doubt if they have any. Instead of taking responsibility for their actions they resort to avoidance and ignorance even after seeing the fellow human suffering because of them. Giving clarity or heads up for closure is a thing of far off land. These cowards don't even have the spine to treat the other person with basic respect while the other person is on the knees begging to just talk sometimes. Disinterest is a thing that could be communicated politely but ghosting or not treating a person with basic respect is way beyond disinterest, it shows the weakness of character. Especially after knowing that the other person is hypersensitive to tiniest actions of theirs.

To be very honest I don't know how these people live with themselves even or sleep at night hurting someone intentionally. But I know every person makes a part of society and where maximum of male population is like this I am afraid, in same society their own sister and daughters are going to live. Because I am afraid of leaving a world like this to my daughter as well.

Just a girl & her companions sharing their experiences.

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